Everyone in this world will be facing this situation where
you need to make a decision for your life.
Some of us let other people make the decision for us and
some might choose to make their own.
Sometimes you may be force to follow others decision in
order to make sure everyone happy instead of making yourself happy.This is the part where someday you feel so freaking tired
of listening to others voice instead of your own voice. Life is full of big
moments and to make it worth you have to make a right decision in your
eyes, not others because they won’t be the one who will be facing the problem
later, its you!
Here some of advice on few big decision that you might be
making J
1. Choose a college major.
I can say this is the first part of decision
making on most of everybody’s life. When your parent sent you to primary and
secondary school, most of us didn’t bother to think
About what we going to do after school, we
just busy wasting time with the friends, enjoy every moment, being naughty and
some of us might enjoy being rebellious as well.
But when it comes on choosing a college
major, this is where we may think twice on what course or major we want to take
because it effects our future career. We have to know what we really want,
Some of us do but some don’t. As for
myself, honestly I just want to be in college during that time and I have a
little bit interest in taking some courses but end up following my parent’s
will to study business instead. Some of us able to speak out but sadly no one
willing to listen. So what I can say is, listen to what your kids really want
to do, give a good advice by NOT forcing them. All of us have the ability to
evaluate and analyze the information given, it will help them making their own
decision. Believe me, when you give your kids the ability to make their own
decision it will help them to become more independent and responsible of the
outcome from the decision made.
2.
Decide on career.
This is very crucial thing for most of
people, doesn’t matter if they are fresh graduate, people who look for a job or
person who suddenly willing to work after long time being unemployed. Have you
heard people said, people who love their job tend to perform better? When I
just graduate, my parent want me to work at the bank, doesn’t matter which bank
but yes,! At the bank, which honestly I really don’t have the feeling to work
at the bank and counting others money, opss..dont get offended it just my
personal opinion. You may need to understand more about yourself first before
you know what kind job might be suitable with you and will make you happy doing
it. Know what you enjoy the most, some people enjoy their alone time but some
other might really enjoy meeting new people every day. Some of us feel good
with the numbers and calculations some of us just like doing a normal plain
paper work. You have to really get to know about yourself to you know what you
really want to do. Some people find out what they like by accident and end up
pursue it without hesitation and they succeed!
3.
Make a career change.
Experience make us matured. I started to
work in finance department at one of international college and end up feeling
this not what I want, honestly I know how to count the money better than others
I guess but I just don’t feel like doing it. Then I switch to become a customer
service in one of the airline company, this is where I get to know all the
impatient people as well as manipulative people, honestly I enjoyed but
suddenly I feel like I want to do something else and finally I found the job
that I really want to do, I feel happy going to work every day, and I enjoy
helping people around me, I like to learnt more on the law thingy which I
believe it can help people and the company itself. I keep looking forward on
what I can do the next day! You may need to have an experience first before you
know what you really want. Career change might be bad for some people but for
some others it might be good as well. When have experience working in the
various department, we tend to understand more on how people feeling as well as
how things work. It will help us a lot in our current job actually, for example
if your current career need you to contact a hotel to make reservation, it you
been working at hotel before, you might know on how to make thing faster or
smoother from your side.
4.
Go back to school or get an advanced degree
This usually happened for women, where when
they have stable career and feeling comfortable with what they are doing now,
they tend to find other thing as a tools of achievement to them. Most of women
will go for school or taking advanced degree. This will help to increase their
value in terms of their personal profile, guess what bank also will look for
this requirement if you wish to apply for loan, this is in Malaysia. Im not
really sure how other country works on this. I don’t really have further
explanation on this actually because for me myself, I go back to school for my
degree because my mum wanted me to and as for my point of view its good did
actually, no one can take your value but people can take other things from you.
Having a degree will increase your value, but I didn’t say people without it
doesn’t have value, everyone has their own specialty. Don’t feel bad about yourself J
5.
Figure out where to live
Every people might have different kind of
perception on this, some people enjoy living with their own company, far from
others. But others might want to live at the place with so many people who
cares about other people life as well. As for me, I have my own plan to live at
the place where there is a lot of people but they just mind their own business
don’t bother what others been doing. Just take care of their own life and
family. There will be not much of drama, you know each other but you just don’t
waste your time try to figure out things that people doesn’t want to let you
know. I like this kind of living place, people busy building their own
happiness in their way and they don’t bother you. Its good to be like that
instead, and they don’t judge, everyone have their own struggle that you have
no idea what it is, so just shut the door as well as your mouth J. I guess I can peace
life.
6.
Rent or buy a house
Usually when people start to work and have
their own life. They also need to manage their own financial as well. We
usually start to rent a house first instead of straight away buy it. I would
suggest to wait first until you feel like you really have the ability mentally
and financially then you decide if you want to buy or not. This is because
buying house is not a short term commitment, in Malaysia minimum house
commitment can be at least 20 years, its like you spent the rest of your life
paying it. So before you decide to buy a house, make sure you have sufficient
balance and able to commit first. I can say rent a house will be cheaper instead
of buying it. But it will depend on individual itself on how they make their
arrangement on that.
7.
Who to go on date with
This one not hard thing for me, because im
not that kind of women who want all thing to be perfect. Im trying to be
perfect sometimes, but for me the right one will come to you one day and that
time everything about him/her will look so perfect for you. Don’t put so much
hope on finding the perfect one because it never exists, nobody is perfect.
Partner is the one who make the other side perfect, they complete each other in
different way. Some way that others can’t see but you can feel it. I would like
to advice others to not being so judgmental on others choice. You don’t know
who is your partner yet and you don’t know with who you going to spend the rest
of your life with, people not perfect so do you! So stop judging and start
thinking about your own miserable life. J
8.
Get married or not
This has become more personal to touch, but I
try to make it more general on my side. For me this is the biggest decision in
individual life as they need to make decision on their own without any pressure
from people around them. This is about choosing who you want to be with you for
the rest of your life and its not an easy decision to make. Some of us might
facing a big headache when the family not agree with decision that we plan to
make and when family decided to ditch you out. You need to try to calm down
first and think wisely, as for the family especially parent, you may need to
try to discuss and see what is your kids point of view, everything that we do
or decided to do will have its own risk which the person willing to take or
not. If they willing, from parent side they can still give an opinion by not trying
to force in making final decision. Like I mention previously, its good to give
freedom to your kids to make their own decision so they know that they are
responsible for that decision made.